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Your Mothering is Political, and That's Not a Bad Thing: My Attempts at Anti-Racism Through Mothering.

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**[2021 edit - A year later, I see how much more I still have to learn. How many more layers of indoctrination and ancestral actions are alive in me. I pledge to engage in re-education, that is the unlearning and relearning, that is needed to become an ally and accomplice in every sense.]

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I sit here between the shadow of the Watagan mountains and Awaba, which is what Lake Macquarie was called before colonisation, dispossession and genocide. I would like to begin this article by acknowledging…

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Notes From A "Recovering Perfectionist": Why I Will Never Be The "Perfect Mother" And Neither Will You.

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One of my Mama Mentors recently described herself as a “recovering perfectionist”. Having been a perfectionist in my past academic and professional life, I have tried to sidestep this trait in my mothering. Sometimes it creeps in though, and I think of ways that I could become the “perfect mother”, and truly give my child the absolute best of everything.

Ideas whirl in my head – how to improve myself to live up to (what I think are) my own expectations. So I decided to get to know her, the “per…

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Stand Up To "Mum Posture"

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Standing. How can something as basic as standing be different pre and post-pregnancy, even in "uncomplicated" pregnancies and deliveries? And how do we not even notice "mum posture" dragging at our bodies?

As pregnancy progresses, uterus and baby get bigger and heavier, and our organs get pushed up higher in our abdomen to make room for them. Our pelvis tips forward to give more space for baby, and we stick our chest out (called rib flaring) so as to not overbalance and give ourselves some spac…

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Three things new mums can learn from cats

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As a self-proclaimed “dog person” it pains me to say this, but there is a lot new mums can learn from cats. These are my top three mama cat wisdoms.


  1. Hide away to prep for birth. I don’t recommend actually hiding like those cats that end up with litters of kittens stuck in drains or ceilings, but in a way birthing cats have it right. They take themselves to a secluded, dimly lit place where they feel secure from predators. In doing so they can turn their focus internally and birth without fe…

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10 Tips To Help Dads Pick The Perfect Present For Their Partner

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Mothers' Day in Australia has been and gone for another year. Breakfast in bed is off the cards until at least her birthday. Having exhausted gift ideas on her "Hallmark Holiday" let me give you my top ten tips to choose the perfect gift for the miraculous mum and partner in your life!

Let's start by making it clear (and cheaper!): we don’t want stuff. We especially don’t want one of those light boxes to dry your painted nails in, and we definitely don’t want a new vacuum cleaner or kitchen app…

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How to build your mama village (without compromising your values)

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Long had I watched mum groups in cafes and felt a pang of jealousy as I took my keep-cup back to my baby capsule-free car. Yes I was envious of the baby, but I was also envious of their almost tribal connectedness. I yearned for the deep knowing looks those mothers gave each other across conversation that hardly happened as they each nursed and wrangled their children in a public place.

My baby eventually arrived, but my mama wolf pack didn’t suddenly materialise. Where did I go wrong? Over a…

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How to not have a baby shower (and feel even more loved)

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Isolation era means no face-to-face baby showers for now. Some mums will need to grieve that loss of rite of passage, and others will be thankful to skip the expected yet unwanted hoo-haa. From where I sit, this is another opportunity to rethink how we celebrate newborn motherhood and surround families with love.

The options of what to do instead of a shower with cupcakes and bunting are endless. One is to skip the whole thing and make a gift registry on some big store like Baby Bunting. This…

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What Mums Want This Mothers' Day.

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Once upon a time, I sent this graphic from my mum-crush Senator Larissa Waters to my own mum on Mothers' Day. Now as a mother, I want to stand on my proverbial mountain and shout her "gift ideas" even louder. But what can you as a partner get for the miraculous mother of your child, or do for her on her Hallmark Holiday?

Well, we don’t want stuff. We especially don’t want one of those light boxes to dry your painted nails in, and we definitely don’t want a new vacuum cleaner or kitchen applianc…

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Massage for the Sole and Soul

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A massage for many a new mum is the ultimate in heavenly, hormone-boosting, stress-busting care. Even now, merely writing the word "massage" is luxurious. In Indian Ayurvedic tradition, a new mum is to be massaged with warm oil every day for FORTY DAYS after the birth of her child. This is considered essential, not indulgent! There are many purposes of this daily massage in this tradition, including warming and grounding mum. As discussed in my previous blog, postpartum women are considered to b…

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Essential Autumn - Warming Mums from the Inside Out

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The mornings are crisp, the leaves on our maple are turning yellow and the pumpkin vines are dying off - it must be Autumn! In many non-western cultures, Autumn is considered a time of letting go of what we don’t need and turning inward so we can work on hibernation and consolidation over winter. At a time when westerners intuitively turn to nourishing soups and stews over crunchy salads, we are wise to recognise the ancient knowledge systems that encourage this transition. The ancient Indian Ay…

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