Parenting Affirmations and the Cult of Presence
This morning I listened to a body relaxation and affirmations recording I used when my daughter was tiny.
It told me I would be “present” today.It told me I would smile because I knew I was “doing my best in every moment”.It told me I my best was “always good enough”.
Instead of feeling relaxed, I felt compassion for the New Mum who filled her head with such crap.
Today I step into my day knowing:
I will not be present all day longI will not smile through every momentI do not need to give “my best” at all times to be an effective, caring parent.
The world will try and sell you maternal martyrdom and parental perfection at every turn.
You do not need to buy in.
In all its mess, frustration, delight, anger, joy, sadness, intensity and confusion, I hope you move beyond “nice” to have a satisfying, meaningful, memorable day, and that if you don’t, that’s ok too.
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